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How Making a YouTube Video Helped Me Cope with My Father's Death

Last month, I made a YouTube video on my channel about my Dad’s Every Day Carry (EDC). I thought this was perfect since I was trying to deal with his passing in a positive way and that’s what I talk about on my channel anyways. I don’t spend a lot of time on the videos, I don't make any money off of them, and I don’t mind if they’re just something I do because I enjoy them.

But something happened that was unexpected. After posting the video, I checked the comments once or twice and responded to some but never went back to the video until about three weeks later.

I got a notification on my phone that someone had commented on the video, which wasn’t shocking, but when I saw the view count on the video, it almost knocked me over. Over 27,000 views. The video had taken off.

Again I was surprised at what happened next. Normally I’d say that YouTube comments are one of the darkest places on the web, and I generally try to stay away from them, especially with videos about politics or controversy. What I saw was over 120 comments on my video (more than any other thing I’d ever posted) that were filled with heartwarming sympathies and tributes to my dad and some of the tools he carried. People from all walks of life and all ages. People that had lost their dads as well, some to Covid even.

Going through my dad’s things and posting the video had been therapeutic enough - but the extra added bonus of so many sympathies and encouragement from an unlikely place (YouTube comments of all places) has helped me realize that there are people that care out there, and that there are people who can be kind.

My church family and physical family has been an incredible help and encouragement since my dad passed on January 4. What I didn’t expect, though, was a similar kind of encouragement from strangers on the internet. It’s good to see that we haven’t lost all of our humanity and that kindness is still alive and well.

An Education Minister Goes to a Preacher's Conference

As an Education Minister now for going on 7 years, I haven't yet been able to find a good conference just for ministers who serve in Education roles. I have to go to different conferences specifically for preachers and youth ministers and apply those things to my teaching every week. I'm finally back to teaching an adult class every week, and I also work with the kids here at Graymere on the other side of the spectrum.

I went in to Better: Southeast knowing that I would need to filter some things for myself. Some things that were directed at preaching every week would need to be applied to me teaching every week. And it was a valuable exercise. While I do not have the rigor of preaching every Sunday, and the things that go along with being a preacher every Sunday, I am a teacher every Sunday and minister to the people in this congregation.

Suffice to say, it was a great experience to be at Better, both from the fellowship standpoint but also from the practical standpoint. I was able to take away quite a bit not just about preaching and teaching, but ministry as a whole.

Dale and Jeff Jenkins were able to line up some very adept speakers for this conference, and the content was dynamic. Here's just a few notes from a selection of the speakers. Not a comprehensive list of the entire conference, but here's what I found helpful as an Education Minister.

Jeff Jenkins opened with ten things we should do to plan our preaching. Jeff said that he has a yearly plan of what he's going to preach every calendar year, planned out for twelve months. My takeaway: As a class teacher and minister on staff, I have flexibility where some others would not. I came away from this talk inspired to plan a 12-month "Personal Teaching Calendar." I have never had difficulty in finding things to teach, only picking what I should teach next. This will help me be better organized and plan for 2022 - something I haven't been able, like so many others, to plan in a couple of years.

Doug Burleson talked about Being an Effective Textual Preacher, which may have been the most informative and practical session of the entire conference for me personally. My takeaway: It translated well to a full-time Bible teacher, and it further reinforced my recent thinking on not just being better prepared when I teach, but being accurate and representing the text better when I teach. Meaning does not change in Scripture, but application will vary.

Dr. Bruce McClarty, former president at Harding University, taught us on remaining true to the Word of God. I have heard Dr. McClarty very few times, but this lesson did not disappoint. My takeaway: A quote from Bruce said it best:

"We won't be perfect, but we must be genuine. We need to share a piece of our God-touched soul every week."

Chuck Monan was a treat to hear. I had never heard him speak before, and he spoke to us about Preacher Failings. He had six simple things that he illustrated wonderfully and sometimes humorously: 1) Don't bore people to distraction, 2) Don't wear people out with Greek, 3) Don't mangle pronunciations, 4) Don't be hypocritical, 5) Don't neglect doctrine, and 6) Don't be afraid. I found it entertaining as it was powerful and practical to hear.

Lastly, Craig Evans talked about starting a new work. Craig has started several new works in his ministry career, most notably his last at Mt. Juliet Church of Christ here in Tennessee. But Craig quickly moved from the topic to a more broad discussion of things that every minister should do (in my opinion), when starting a new work or even ones established in ministries. He said a lot, but here's a mostly complete list:

  • Before you start, do your research!!
  • Call the previous minister! (25+ years)
  • Try out sermon: preach like YOU
  • Get WRITTEN EXPECTATIONS - job desc, financial, time off, etc.
  • Am I going to be a hireling or one of the sheep?
  • "If you don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you"

  • First, work on your relationship with God

  • Make WISDOM your constant prayer request
  • Spend time with people - from the smallest child to the oldest member
  • Ask: what is our vision? (Elders, Deacons, Staff)
  • Spending time with leadership/staff outside of meetings
  • Let people know you care: hospitals and funerals
  • Listen more than you talk
  • Pray for people when you listen (How can I pray for you this week?)
  • Pray for people in their presence
  • Our job is to be focused on souls
  • "Connection before correction" - friends speak in love
  • Be slow to make changes at a new work (wrecking ball, not a builder)
  • You cannot be a minister at two churches at the same time
  • Focus on your family
  • Set healthy boundaries (hours worked)
  • Get physically healthy (shows self-discipline)
  • Ask: Am I missing something? (Find someone to help you, a mentor)
  • You need a core group of friends
  • Pace yourself as you start (one new sermon a week, one old sermon per week)
  • Help people to love God's Word more
  • Don't know what to preach? Preach about Jesus! (Sermon on the Mount)

Overall, I was refreshed and renewed coming away from Better. If I could say one thing, it would be to encourage every minister in every role (pulpit, education, youth, etc.) to find a conference like this to attend. Personally, I needed this. I needed to be a part of a conference I didn't have to help plan (we have two here at Graymere I help plan), and I needed some energy back in my batteries, so to speak.

Many thanks to Jeff and Dale Jenkins for their hard work putting this on, and for Heritage Christian in Florence for hosting.

Christian Podcasts I Recommend

I feel like I've had a lot of people message me or seen a lot of people asking about "Christian" podcasts to listen to. While it's relatively easy to find podcasts about anything you want to listen to, it seems difficult to find good Christian podcasts to listen to. I've assembled a short list of what I'm listening to right now. Maybe you'll find something you like.

Holy Ghost Stories - told by Justin Gerhardt, self-described as "telling Bible stories in all their weird, haunting fantastic-ness." This podcast is frankly amazing. It's more than just dramatic readings of Scripture, it's almost Scripture novelized. This is one of those podcasts you should definitely listen to at least one episode of just to hear it. My bet is that you'll be hooked. > holyghoststories.org

Preachers in Training - with 13 seasons of catalog to listen to, The Light Network's Preachers in Training is one of my favorites. And you don't need to be a preacher to listen, but it's especially helpful for ministers out there. Different guests and different topics every week. > thelightnetwork.tv/tag/preachers

Bible Project Podcast - I've loved nearly everything Tim and Jon at the Bible Project have put out, so it's no surprise I'd love their official podcast. It's a very diverse topical show, featuring series' of study as well as interviews. Highly recommended. > bibleproject.com/podcasts/the-bible-project-podcast/

Bible Study Podcast with Wes McAdams - formerly the CrossTalk podcast, Wes McAdams hosts this show about Biblical topics, usually with a guest on every show. Just like his writing at Radically Christian, Wes offers practical discussion and insights on difficult topics in a loving but bold way. > radicallychristian.com/category/podcast

Thinking in Public with Albert Mohler - I've been a fan of Mohler for a long time, and his podcast is wonderful. He talks mostly about sensitive subjects but from a Christian perspective, with great guests and a humble attitude. > albertmohler.com/category/podcast

Coronavirus Could Kill Consumer Christianity ▸

In this fantastic article by Brett McCracken, he argues that some of the potential positive effects of COVID-19 is that it’s likely to kill off “consumer Christianity” in mainstream churches - in effect, boiling down the excess. He also makes the point about this weekend that there were supposed to be lavish and sensational Easter services - and now there won’t be.

…coronavirus has rapidly taken away the excesses of church, all the bells and whistles, all the nice-to-haves we’ve come to see as must-haves. What remains are bare essentials: Jesus, the Word, community, prayer, singing. What remains is the reality that the church can never be vanquished: we are Christ’s body and will live eternally with him. Things are suddenly spartan in how we do church—but what we are remains as vibrant as ever.

In lots of our churches, the programs have taken precedence, not serving others. We’ve been giving to the church out of a sense of what we will get in return, and now we don’t have that.

How will the church react when all this is over?